"Stop Walking on Eggshells" Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder" by Paul T. Mason and Randi Kreger

“Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder” by Paul T. Mason and Randi Kreger is a must-read for anyone who has a loved one affected by Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). One of the hallmarks of BPD is instability and hypersensitivity in interpersonal relationships, which frequently leaves friends and families of people with BPD confused about how to have a relationship with and support the person with BPD. Sadly, for many people with BPD, loved ones may abandon the relationship, which only serves to worsen their sense of abandonment and distrust. This book offers insight and suggestions that can provide both the person affected by BPD and those close to them with hope and a way forward.

I like the way this book presents a thorough understanding of Borderline Personality Disorder.  Mason and Kreger present the nuances of the disorder in a way that is both comprehensive and accessible.  They break down complex psychological jargon into easily understandable  sections, allowing the reader to gain a deep understanding of what their loved ones are experiencing.  This clarity helps demystify BPD, which helps foster a sense of compassion, which is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships.

The book shines in its practical approach to dealing with BPD.  The authors offer concrete strategies and tools for setting boundaries, communicating effectively, and managing one’s own emotional well being.  If you have read prior reviews on my blog, you know I love a book that offers practical tools for the reader.  The tools in this book are grounded in real-life examples, which makes the relatable and easier to implement.  Readers will find the advice on establishing boundaries particularly invaluable, as it empowers them to protect their own mental health without feeling guilty.

Another commendable aspect of this book is its balance of empathy and self care.  Mason and Kreger acknowledge the pain and frustration that can come with caring for someone with BPD, but they also emphasize the importance of self-care.  The message is clear, you can provide support only when you have ensured that you are caring for you yourself.  By providing practical advice on self-care, the authors ensure that the readers can maintain their own sanity and stability while supporting a loved one.

The inclusion of personal stories and testimonies throughout the book adds a layer of authenticity and relatability.  These narratives offer hope and reassurance, showing readers that they are not alone in their struggles.  This sense of community can be incredibility comforting for those who often feel isolated by tehri experiences.

“Stop Walking on Eggshells” is not just a book: it’s a lifeline.  It offers a blend of education, practical strategies, and emotional support that can make a significant difference in the lives of those affected by Borderline Personality Disorder.  Whether you are a family member, friend, or partner of someone with BPD, this book provides the tools and insights needed to navigate these turbulent waters with confidence and compassion.

This book is a beacon of hope and a practical guide to anyone dealing with BPD.  Its empathetic approach combined with actionable advice make is an essential resource for creating healthier, more balanced relationships.   The Regina Public Library has this book, and it is also available in an ereader or audio format.